Friday, November 20, 2009
The value of loss
The value of loss Congratulations to all the Pittsburgh Steelers, who won the Super Bowl and became world champion for a record tying 5 time.It must have been great for lifting the Lombardi Trophy as the hapless Seahawks looked in defeat. That a group of losers in the flat on his face like a child first leaing to walk. Sure, they did finish 2nd best - before another 30 teams to lose or even win their conference. While some may consider the NFC champs have had a successful season, Tom Seaver, once wrote: "there are only two places an athlete can finish - the first place and no place." How about Vince Lombardi who said: "Show me a good loser and I'll show you a loser." Even in the world of sport, if we win, or in life, this can not be our way of thinking. As in a mirror of real life, when 31 teams in the NFL, which represent the best players in the world are all watching the Champion Steelers, we all need to find and understand the value of losing.Everybody LosesWhile be a loser requires you lose, the corollary that losing makes you a loser is obviously false. Vince Lombardi is known as one of the largest and most intense coaches in history. Of course, most of us know Coach Lombardi's famous quote: "Winning is not everything, is everything." Although long as such, focus on winning, most of us do not know that he also said: "If we can not accept losing, you can not win." Even if all of us, how to win more than we like to lose, to play and be part of something bigger, we must be willing to take the risk you could lose. We must recognize that the loss is a natural part of participating and that winning.Why? S worth LoseWhile not necessarily intuitive, there are many reasons why it feels good to lose and I want to focus on two of these: the first and most obvious is to miss the reason, and that will help us win, and the second reason loss is that helps us win life.Losing creates opportunity. Each loss is more about what the experience of a team or individual can do to improve every victory. Losing provides even more motivation. Winning tends to neglect people because of trial errors and the reasons that may reveal only lose. And 'the process by which individuals and teams can identify areas of work through the practice to improve. Perhaps more importantly, the loss of people to recognize the forces that want to win. The justification for the loss of a key element to help teams to work more to improve in practice more difficult to play and win. Coach John Wooden Pyramid of Success (January 2006) emphasizes that success is not to win or lose, but the self-satisfaction derived from doing the best to be the best they are capable of. Winners and losers should inspire a person to improve and maximize their potential. Through the use of losses in this way, we can motivate ourselves and others.We can also use these lessons to improve other aspects of our lives, because it is like to lose a large part of daily life, as is natural experience play sports. As parents, we make this effort to help our children feel better and not let the experience failures. Ultimately, by failing to acknowledge its faults, errors and losses, which do not allow them to live up to its potential. If it is not natural and creates motivation. Spotless, the children can not see the need to work harder to improve. Tell the children that have a "good eye" when the field is the support, or to say "nice try" after a mistake may seem encouraging. However, we must also understand that it may be well to let them know that was a mistake. When an error that we can recognize that the work, and then to lea the error of maintaining and, ultimately improve.By say that children are always doing a great send a message that we will have to work so hard. Children are intelligent and understand if they are good or bad. Sometimes, they must be protected, but sometimes we also need to be honest, if we are to succeed in life. The idea that only one person has to do everything that is not always true - sometimes have to do even better. I heard the story of an employee who responded to a new position for a project that should take place within a time limit: "I will do my best." Well, in this case, you only need to do and not end up even if this was his "best effort" is simply unacceptable. Sometimes a person is not sufficient and necessary "to have to do." This is one of the lessons we can lea to lose, because it is part of life.ConclusionBud Wilkerson, the famous Okalahoma Sooners football coach who led his team on a 47-game winning streak, said the only way to meet not has ever lost someone that meant he had to find someone who has never played the game. Even if you do not want to miss, it can be used to motivate and enhance lose. We are also able to extrapolate the experience of losing the greatest lesson in life so that everyone can have the best we can. Losing is part of everything we do and has a tremendous value. Errors are a natural component of the participants and, therefore, should not be afraid to acknowledge our mistakes and use them to improve. Our goal in youth sports and in life, must be to see the value of loss and use it to improve the athletes, parents and people.Ken Kaiserman is the president of - a site leader in sport for children and their families. Besides coaching football, basketball and baseball, Ken serves on the local Little League board of directors and an advisory committee of the park.